3 Mindset Shifts for a Happier Home

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How to be a better partner and parent in 2019

The holiday season may be over, but the time for giving is still upon us. And the best gift you can give your family is a better you. So how will you shift your mindset in 2019 to better serve your spouse and children? Below are three suggestions:

Practice self-awareness.

All of your relationships begin with you. Everyone comes with their own set of problems, perspectives and assumptions, so it’s important to be aware of your own.

Self-awareness is one of the best gifts you can give your husband and children. Let them know that you’re trying your best to see through their eyes, while also acknowledging your own subjectivity. You can even ask your family whether they think you’re seeing things clearly. This can open up dialogue and promote vulnerability. Difficult conversations become easier, and deeper connections form when you realize your biases and set them aside in order to listen to your family.

Acknowledge your weaknesses.

No one likes to admit their own weaknesses. But you’ll only be able to work on them once you know what they are. So be proactive and strengthen up those areas that need work. Release any shame, guilt, embarrassment, denial or other negative emotions associated with your weaknesses, and view them as opportunities for improvement.

An air of perfection suggests superiority. But humility humanizes you and makes it easier for your family to connect to you. 

Model good behavior.

The best way to teach your children is to model the behavior you want to see. “Do as I say, not as I do,” is an ineffective parenting model. Children are sponges; they soak up the experiences and examples around them. Direct instruction is always recommended, but your words can never replace your character.

So this year, look beyond New Year's resolutions and change your mindset for life. Be vulnerable, get to know yourself better and be the person you want your children to be.