3 Ways Imperfections Can Help Inspire Your Household
You don't have to have it all to be an inspiration to others. Most of us don't have all our ducks in a row, but we can still have a significant effect on people's lives. Perfection isn't relatable and won't make the same impact as showing up human and flawed. You can use your mistakes, faults, and failings to show your spouse and kids how to learn, evolve, apologize, and persevere. Here are three ways you can inspire others exactly as you are.
1. Two Steps Forward
Teach your kids (and remind yourself) to live in the journey. You don't need to focus on having everything figured out. And try not to get cocky with every step forward you take—you'll never actually get “there” because “there” is always evolving. Raising yourself into a better and more balanced version of you doesn't put you above people; it grounds and centers you within yourself. There is no race to the top; rather, it is a stroll into peace and happiness.
2. Build from the Bottom
No one's rise is steady. No one progresses linearly. Everyone experiences setbacks at times, and many of us suffer multiple stumbles in a row. But when you get knocked down and have to start over or go back to the basics, you can learn a lot and gain the most.
“Failure,” as we define it, encourages us to reflect and learn from our past more than success does. In failure, you can analyze and understand where you went wrong, what you misunderstood, and how you can improve next time. And when you rise to the occasion and get back up, when you continue to fight for your life, you show yourself and others that the strongest people aren't those who never fall; they're those who come back from the brink.
3. The Price of Perfection
Perfection is a tenuous goal: admirable yet unattainable all at once. The problem with attempting to achieve perfection in any area of your life is that “perfection” easily encourages anxiety. Instead of learning and growing, perfection focuses your attention on a specific outcome or expectation. But reality can rarely live up to what you imagine you want or what you think should happen.
Pursuing perfection in your marriage and family creates an environment of rigidity, judgment, and stress. In the pursuit of perfection, you can easily overlook opportunities for appreciation, acceptance, and empathy. You miss out on the communal experience and genuine enjoyment, and you forget to be in the moment with those you love the most.
The looming desire for perfection can also cause your family members to feel like nothing they do is good enough. When your partner and children feel they fail to measure up to your standards, it can create a psychological and emotional wall that blocks intimacy, trust, and a sense of safety and support.
We all have shortcomings, challenges, and blind spots. But that doesn't mean we don't have wisdom and valuable lessons to share. Showing up unveiled, authentic, and honest about how far you've come and how far you have left to go will do wonders to capture and captivate an audience hungry for inspiration and guidance.
Founder of The Passion Warrior Project, Christi Pratte is a multi-passionate lifestyle blogger and advocate for women who are looking to find more self-love and purpose within their hustle. Facebook: The Passion Warrior Project | Instagram: @christipratte