How You Can Help Your Whole Family Find Their Purpose

Everyone has a purpose, but not everyone finds it. Most people throughout their lives will find their dreams deferred by everyday decisions and social milestones. Women often forgo self-discovery and fulfilling their purpose for family, motherhood, and financial security. But what does living without purpose teach your children, especially your daughters? Moreover, how do you find your purpose in life while doing the full- and over-time jobs of being a great partner and parent? How can you help your kids find their purpose if you haven't already found your own?

While pinpointing your purpose(s) in life can seem like a daunting task, narrowing down the process or roads to explore is simple. These guidelines can work for anyone: adult and teen, parent and child alike. Don't think about how you'll get from where you are to where you want to be or any limitations you feel are acting as barriers to your inner fulfillment; just respond genuinely as if there was nothing but possibility at your fingertips.

Ask yourself these questions:

  1. What would you do if you did not have to think about money? When money is no longer an issue and you are free to pursue any avenue, what you pick reflects your higher desires in life, not simply meeting your basic needs.

  2. What would you do for free? If you are so passionate about something that you would be willing to do it for free, there is a distinct possibility it is part of your purpose.

  3. What do you do just for you? Doing something to make yourself happy without consideration for others' wants or influence means it is very personal and valuable to you. Others can benefit from your efforts, but building your life solely around others' happiness is often hazardous to your own health and happiness.

  4. What do you not need validation in, or, what do you possess inner confidence in and could not be discouraged from doing or be made insecure over from negative feedback? This is something you will commit to and be persistent in despite naysayers, haters, and trolls. This is also something you will not become bored with if or when the applause dies down. In that case, the applause would be what you're seeking instead of the pursuit of purpose.

  5. What can you get lost in? When you lose track of time, forget to eat and relieve yourself, and forgo sleep, you've found something you can become fanatical about and will perfect over time.

  6. What makes you feel whole? Feeling complete means that you feel comfortable, settled, satisfied, and full. Feeling whole helps relieve anxiety, improve mood, and find compassion for others who may otherwise antagonize your triggers and sensitivities. It also influences you to encourage others to find what makes them feel whole; tempering the anxieties and aggression of those around you as well.

  7. What do you want to share with the world, or, how can you help the world heal, laugh, grow, evolve, or change in a positive way? Your purpose may be for you, but it could also do wonders for others who get to experience your gifts.

  8. How can you do each of these:

  • Teach/Educate

  • Learn

  • Guide

  • Experience

  • Liberate

  • Uplift

  • Lead

  • Move

  • Inspire

  • Help/Assist

  • Provide

  • Improve

Whether or not you find it, pursuing your purpose will inspire those around you to pursue theirs. You can help others find their purpose directly by asking them to consider these questions and prompts. Or you can show those around you the value of living your purpose and relieving yourself of the anxieties of everyday life.

Whether you know it or not, everyone is looking for their purpose. At times, it may feel impossible to accomplish, but the great thing is that it's never to late or early to find it. It may be conscious or unconscious, but each person is searching for what gives them personal satisfaction, inner peace, confidence, comfort in oneself and the world, and a sense of belonging that isn't dependent on external validation.

Finding your purpose doesn't have to be a drag. It can be fun, exciting, and best of all, malleable. Your purpose may change over time and evolve as you do. There's no need to look for one single thing that is supposed to carry all of your emotional weight for the rest of your life. Be open to multiple options to move between or juggle that fit the profile and make you feel complete and appreciated.