Mentors and Friends: An Interview with Priscilla Shirer


Most recently known for her lead role in the movie “War Room,” Priscilla Shirer has been touching the lives of thousands for many years. From being a role model of a woman who puts her husband and sons first in the presence of a highly successful career to being a New York Times bestselling author and the host of sold out ministry conferences all over the country, Shirer is a living example of the rewards of faith and friendship. She is like the girl next door who you'd love to chat with over tea. 

If you've ever had the pleasure of listening to Shirer preach or have read one of her books you know her passion for connecting with other women. Although her ministry and writing are not exclusively to women, her teaching style makes you feel as if you’re receiving wise counsel from a lifelong friend – a friend who has taken the time to connect with your needs and is serious about helping you. Shirer said she prepares to speak to crowds of thousands as if she's talking to one woman.

“I am speaking to the needs of that one woman, not a crowd,” she said.

Shirer’s value for relationships began as a child while watching her parents model sincere Christian living and marriage. In her 20s she discovered the value of connecting with women who had already been where she wanted to go. This is a practice she continues today. She takes opportunities to sit down with mentors, whom she calls dear friends, to hear their stories and learn the lessons they have to share. They help keep her on track.

“Arrogance can happen as you reach certain goals,” Shirer said. “But talking to women who are ahead of you and have achieved more than you keeps you grounded.” 

Shirer connects with her mentors in a variety of ways, but always has the goal of gaining access to what her mentors have to share. She has four tips for getting the most from a mentor relationship.

  1. Remember mentors are human and have limitations. They are not perfect; they have limits on their time and availability and have other priorities.
  2. Make the effort to be present for the way they pour out. If they’re an author, read their books. If they’re a speaker, go hear them speak. If they’re available for personal meetings, meet with them.
  3. Be open. You’re attracted to your mentors for a reason, so be open to receive their wisdom.
  4. Don’t be arrogant.

Shirer has several mentors, and she is a mentor to others. She shares wisdom from the pulpit, in her books and with her lifestyle. She said as a mentor, the best advice she can give another woman is to “create a lifestyle that allows you to steep in the word of God. Make it a priority and be intentional about it.”