The Girls We Were

chantelAre you the mother of a daughter? I am the mother of a beautiful daughter who is a young adult now. I find myself thinking back to her childhood for the hints she gave about the woman she’d become. You know those little hints of personality, character and taste. Some I admit to missing, but there were other hints I caught immediately. For example, her intellectual curiosity told me that she’d be a smart woman who had her own interests. I was right. Watching her mature has me thinking back to my own girlhood and teen years. I wonder what hints I missed about me and which hints remain. Is there something from my girlhood I should be aware of now?

I also wonder if there is anything I let go of that I now need to revive in my life. What about you?

Were you the carefree type? Were you bolder? Were you a risk-taker? Were you interested in art or music? Did you express yourself with words or pictures? Who were you?

chantelWomanhood brings about a sense of conformity that we sometimes confuse with maturity. We conform because we just want to be comfortable with others and in settings that either produces income or some other form of validation. We conform to get along.

This month is National Beautiful in Your Own Skin Month. I wish I could tell you more about its origins, but the concept alone is inspiring and empowering.

Certainly the girls we were struggled with esthetic contentment as in hair, body and skin issues. However, it is my humble belief that being beautiful in our skins as women is about reclaiming those wonderful things about us on the inside that makes life fulfilling.

The late Vogue magazine editor Diana Vreeland said the following:

“You don't have to be born beautiful to be wildly attractive.” ― Diana Vreeland

“There's only one very good life and that's the life you know you want and you make it yourself.” ― Diana Vreeland

If it means running and jumping, climbing trees, playing jacks on the kitchen floor or chasing fireflies, we should reconnect with the girls we once were to be the best of ourselves now.