You Have Permission to Say, “No!”
It’s the end of yet another year—a time when we find ourselves looking back at our lives over the past 12 months and looking forward to a fresh start! As I reflect upon 2015, I think of all the trials I’ve faced, the adventures I’ve embraced, the successes I’ve chased and achieved, and the strong woman I’ve continued to become. I don’t know about you, but I have grown in ways I never thought possible this year, and I have learned so much about relationships and about letting go.
And let me tell you—it sure hasn’t been easy.
Someone recently pointed out to me that I am somewhat of an enabler. I’m also very kind by nature. When you combine those two things, it makes it rather difficult to say, “No” to people. In both my personal life and my professional life, I’ve allowed others to step in and offer just about anything and everything. That’s not always a good thing. People don’t always have the best intentions when doing so—they’re usually seeking their own personal benefits, regardless of how it impacts you.
But it’s time to turn over a new leaf!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying, “No” to people. In fact, it’s often the healthy thing to do. You can’t be everything to everyone, and I know I’m certainly not going to try to do so anymore. Life is too short and too precious to spend it trying to recover from the pain and setbacks caused by people who shouldn’t be in your life in the first place. There’s no shame in wanting to build relationships with those individuals who add value to your life.
And, starting now, those are the people I’m going to keep.
It’s okay to say, “No.” It’s okay to stand your ground and be firm in your beliefs. It’s okay to tell others that they don’t have permission to take advantage of you. It’s okay to be the strong woman you were created to be.
You don’t have to wait until the end of a year or the start of a new one to surround yourself with those who will love and treat you the way you deserve. Start now because you are worth it!