Two Emotions That Affect Growth


There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we love, we open up to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance. Fear and love are two of the most powerful human emotions. As they spread from person to person, they can inspire extremes of behavior, such as pushing forward or pulling back.

Fear is a natural response to danger that quickens the mind's efforts to anticipate and avoid potential peril or problems. However, stemming from the irrational part of the mind, it knows no logic and sometimes gets unhinged from its target. Because it doesn’t take into account reason or judgment, you are the creator of how you perceive the fear.

People whose lives have been filled with fear often continue to be afraid long after the potential danger has been removed, making up their own irrational reasons. Chronic fear is a debilitating state of mind that weakens body and soul, and it impedes your personal growth. Three actions that will help you grow when facing fear:

• Get comfortable with fear • Lean into your fear—taking action will build your courage against fear • Stop your story—fear is an illusion; you make up frightening stories about your past and your future, and rehearse them over and over until you are terrified

Love has many shades of meaning, but it is well understood as a selfless devotion to someone or something.

When you start saying “yes” to the universe and “yes” to love, fear will no longer have its place in your life—for what is loved cannot be feared, and what is feared cannot be loved. These two can’t coexist. When one is present, the other is absent. Never forget this, for it will help you on your journey to growth.

You must love yourself enough to continue growing personally and professionally. Personal growth is a journey, not a destination.