Yes, I Know Her, But Not From Work

Get to know someone outside of work, but in a structured place, to ease the discomfort
Get to know someone outside of work, but in a structured place, to ease the discomfort

Isn’t it funny how quickly our daily schedule becomes mundane and our months turn routine? Not only do our personal lives become robotic, but so do our careers. We get comfortable going to the same building, sitting at the same desk and interacting with the same people. We go through the same rituals every year. We attend a seminar, take courses for continuing education, and meet with the same circle for career conversations. What is the definition of insanity? It’s doing the same thing, yet expecting different results. Maybe how you’re doing suits you just fine, but I propose we spice things up a bit. Starting today--not next week, next month or next year—attend a different seminar. Look for a seminar specifically for women, but not specific to your industry or field. You’d be surprised what new things you can learn about yourself and apply to your workday and life in general just from hearing from others outside your field. Maybe you’ve never wanted to start a business, but a seminar for entrepreneurs could be just what you need to take your career to the next level.

Many people take continuing education to sustain a certification or level of expertise in their field, but consider taking general courses. Instead of taking a course about the new laws of accounting, take a course in management or marketing, or even social media and its impact on businesses. Stepping away from the core of your career gives you a new perspective on how to maneuver moving forward.

You’ve always wanted to do a wine and food pairing. You’ve always wanted to try hiking. Look for a group of people that you don’t know who want to do these things as well. If you don’t know where to start, try the website This website gives you hundreds of groups in your area that meet about a wide array of topics and hobbies. Maybe you want to try scrapbooking, Canasta, or bocce ball. Stepping out into something different connects you with people you wouldn’t normally connect with, which ultimately leads to new career ideas and opportunities.

I understand that your career may be going at a steady pace in a world that is unstable, so maybe you don’t want to rock the boat. But what if trying something new outside of your career could change the entire direction of your career? Connecting with people you might not have met otherwise is a little uncomfortable, but is worth the discomfort. Try something you’ve always wanted to try. You’ll be in good company.