3 Things You Need When Life Throws Lemons
The journey of life can be a winding road of highs, lows and a whole lot in between. On any given day, you may find yourself starting on a high note, but ending on a sour one. The key is to learn how to navigate this thing we call life. Almost 12 months ago, that's exactly the kind of day I had. I woke up like any other morning, ready to take on the world. But by the time night rolled around, devastation snatched my happiness and took my heart right along with it. Within hours, I went from being a happily married woman to finding myself begging to understand why my husband no longer wanted to be married.
Poof! Just like that! No heads up. No warning. I felt like I had been punched in the gut.
After a couple weeks of tears and anger, I knew I had to turn this ship around. The truth was, whether my marriage was over or not, I still had a life to live—but even more so, a purpose to fulfill.
What do you do when you're faced with some of life's greatest challenges? How do you adjust your sails to turn your ship around?
One of my favorite things to do is go to the movie theater. Even during this crazy time, I found myself sitting in a movie theater, talking to God. In that moment, I realized that in order for me to get through this ordeal, I needed three things: peace, strength and courage.
Peace is the thing you need that will settle you down on the inside. It can only come from within. It is a conscious and deliberate decision to be at peace in any situation. Even in the most chaotic situations, one of the most powerful things you can do is to take a moment to speak peace. Literally, say the word "peace." While there is no magic in saying the word, psychology has proven that once you focus on a thing and speak it, your brain immediately begins its search to find what you said.
When life throws you a boat full of lemons, speak peace, and then make lemonade.
The second thing I needed was strength.
Strength helps you make decisions about what to do next. Peace helps to position you to think, but strength girds you up. It helps you walk through adversities with your head held high. Strength helps when it comes to resistance. When tough things come, it's your strength that allows you to push through.
When it came time for me to make decisions about my next move, strength enabled me to do so. Instead of succumbing to being weak in spirit, I used strength to think clearly, make decisions and explore what action I needed to take.
When life throws you a boat full of lemons, find strength, and then make lemonade.
The third thing I needed through this transition was courage.
I was scared. My husband was a great provider. Financially, he took care of everything. I didn't even have to think about the bills. He paid them all.
Now, here I was, stepping into a life I had never lived before. I had never been a single 51-year-old woman who was running a business full-time. What in the world was I going to do? I had used my strength to make some decisions, but now I needed courage to execute.
Courage gives you the ability to do what you are frightened to do. We hear talk about “getting rid of fear,” but it's not about getting rid of fear—it's about being courageous enough to keep moving forward. Forward movement often requires courage. It's not enough to decide—you then have to do something. Doing takes courage.
When life hurls a boat full of lemons, speak peace, find strength, and then get the courage to do what you need to do. Not only do you have a life to live, but you also have a purpose to fulfill.