Rebecca Crews | Women Who Inspire
Hope for Women magazine was able to chat with Rebecca Crews, who expresses how to let the strength of family influence ministry and the daily walk of faith. HOPE: How do you view your world and learn about what matters most to you?
Rebecca: It’s definitely my family—my kids and my spouse matter most. Family is a big ministry for me because I have a heart to see families prosper. I want to see husbands a part of their families; to see the kids doing well in school; to see families supported economically and being connected to their parents in healthy ways. That’s a big part of my passion and my mission in life.
HOPE: Do you feel that you have that outlook because of the way you were raised?
Rebecca: I think I have that outlet because of how I wasn’t raised. There was an element of alcoholism in my family. Along with growing up with the expectation of having good behavior and good grades, there was chaos. We got mixed messages a lot. So, while I’m excited about the good things that were handed down by my parents, there were still a lot of things to overcome. So I think my personal quest to understand what families should be came out of my pain. HOPE: In mentioning the influences for raising your family thus far, there are also some heavy influences in your background as a singer. How did you spend your time honing your craft in that type of atmosphere as a child?
Rebecca: Well, believe it or not, chaos is a great atmosphere for songwriting! The greatest melodies are born of love and tears.
HOPE: Did you share your songs with others growing up?
Rebecca: No, but as I got older, I learned to share. I studied piano for a few years as a child and eventually got into talent shows and songwriting.
HOPE: Aside from your family upbringing, what other experiences impacted your life?
Rebecca: Well, I was very involved in performances as a young person. Other than the fact that I didn’t live in L.A., I was essentially a child star, if you want to think of it that way. I performed a lot as a kid. But one year, I remember begging my mother to attend a public high school so that I could be a part of this summer arts program (Catholic schools couldn’t qualify for this program at the time). That became my life—we got bookings constantly. But getting into singing more became a challenge for me because it was a very vulnerable place.
HOPE: What would you say is your greatest talent as a business owner and songwriter?
Rebecca: I think I’m a great singer, but I really love the element of sharing your life and other people’s lives through songwriting. Writing about the lives of others also causes me to feel one with the universe and humanity. I believe that music heals, and that’s why I do it.
HOPE: You’re very open about sharing your hardships and your compassion toward family, having recently worked with the reality TV show “The Family Crews.” What advice do you have for women who are trying to overcome outside influences in order to keep their families in one piece?
Rebecca: My advice is to never stop praying for your kids and your husband. Don’t quit showing compassion, but be firm with them. Too many parents, in the name of grace, are codependent and enabling their children into failure. I don’t advise that—in fact, there are some good books you can read like Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Robert Townsend. I also encourage wives to be firm and loving with their husbands to decide at which point you break free for your own protection when dealing with personal addictions.
HOPE: Do you think that faith-based actors and performers can have harder careers in Hollywood?
Rebecca: It can be, and it depends on the type of support they get from their church family. We get a lot of support from our church. Thankfully, there are a lot of Hollywood churches full of producers, songwriters and even a dancer. But of course the dancer can request to have boundaries in her work. You have to make modifications in the business, but you have to put your foot down about certain things.
HOPE: It’s a positive outlook to include performance as part of your personal ministry. How has your faith been incorporated into your life?
Rebecca: I come from a large background of independent churches. I grew up Methodist, having grandparents as Methodist pastors. My parents were kind of more like “methabapticostals.” I went to a Catholic school, and later on, I got involved with ministries advocating Christianity to high schools. But eventually, I wanted to know Christ for myself. So I started praying to know God more because I started witnessing others having a closer relationship with God, which I wanted to know. There was a lot to be grateful for in my life, so it wasn’t a matter of desiring to know God out of despair. One day I remember asking, “What am I delivered from?” I even thought I couldn’t be a Christian because I didn’t have much of a story. But I actually did.