Thankless: Giving yourself the thanks you deserve
Sometimes, it's just all too much. Women take on so many responsibilities and often fall to the bottom of their own to-do lists. A simple ‘thank you’ goes a long way toward re-energizing a lady who may be running on fumes. So how do you cope with all of the demands when people are thanking you by few and far? Can you really give yourself a pat on the back and feel like it counts? Sure, but only if it's sincere. Being appreciative isn't a one-way street. If you've done something worth acknowledging, don't short change yourself. Give yourself credit for all that you do. We all experience seasons when our emotional cheerleaders may be distant. A student attending college away from home, a mom of small children, a single career woman in a new city, or a woman caring for aging parents. Each gives daily with little to no praise. Take responsibility for your own kudos. Get yourself flowers sometimes. They smell just as nice. Treat yourself to your favorite dinner, just don't make that a habit if your favorite dinner is a caloric splurge (whose isn't though?). As you take time to show the “number one” some gratitude, those around you will as well. By now, you've noticed that what you exude is what you attract. In addition to the good vibes you happen to be attracting, don't be afraid to remind those you love that while you don't mind doing for them, you do appreciate when they express their gratitude.
Tanya Brown, sister of the late Nicole Brown Simpson, is now an author, speaker and mental wellness consultant who pulls from her own personal experiences and triumphs. Brown suggests a simple exercise that a friend challenged her to complete. To do this exercise, you must ask yourself questions that will help you see the good in things you have done. Brown explains that, “This is not to boast or put yourself on a pedestal, but rather to help you see that you are a good person and have accomplished some things.”
Most importantly, remember that your creator sees all. Some things you do may never be rewarded . . . at least not here on earth. The anonymous donation to a cause that counts can truly be its own reward. When your motives are their purest, divine gratitude will find you, even if it takes a while. Until then, please know that you matter. You’d be missed if you weren't here. And yes, you are appreciated!