Cora Jakes Coleman: Fighting for Fertility
Being a part of a high-profile family, Cora Jakes Coleman simply couldn’t hide her issue. Instead, she uses it to help heal herself and others. While the thought of multiple feet pitter-pattering around the home may intimidate others, Coleman relishes in the thought and finds complete joy in it. By her own admission, she has always dreamed of having children and mentally planned for motherhood. It was simple: She would marry and quickly begin having the family God promised she could have. As the children’s ministry director for The Potter’s House of Dallas, she knows it is part of the purpose God has for her life. There was no plan B or even a reason to believe there was a need for one.
However, in what seemed to be an instant, a plan B was not only necessary, but was possibly going to be the only option for Coleman and her husband, Brandon (fiancé at the time), to have a child.
While driving home from a babysitting job, Coleman was hit by a truck. The impact caused her car to cave in. Although she waited until the next day to go to the hospital, the news she received was less about the mild injuries she sustained from the accident and more about the discovery the doctors made during her examination. Coleman had two very large cysts on each of her ovaries. Immediate surgery revealed at least one ovary to be much larger than expected, forcing her doctor to remove the entire ovary and connecting fallopian tube.
Her diagnosis was infertility due to Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). At 22 years old, the thought of being infertile was overwhelming, to say the least.
“Always wanting to be a mother and always wanting to have the son I had dreamed of for so long, I was devastated, confused and questioned if I did something wrong,” Coleman said. “Did I not go to the doctor soon enough? You go through a process of grief. I really had to grieve the loss of my reproductive system in a way that, at the time, I didn’t think was very fair. I was lost, but I had an amazing support system around me. They didn’t allow me to stay down for as long as I wanted to.”
The loss she felt convinced her to call off her engagement and release her fiancé to “find a woman who could have his children.” He refused to leave her side, and the two simply decided to fight.
Coleman was able to gather her bearings and pull her mind back under the submission of faith over fear, but the support system outside of her family that she needed to keep herself in check was all but nonexistent. She discovered there wasn’t much for a woman her age suffering from PCOS. It was paramount that she find someone—anyone—who could relate to her struggle and offer comfort. When her research and Google suggestions ran empty, her options were fight or flight. Fighting to hold onto the promises of God and fighting to believe the voice of God rather than the voices of doubt and depression, Coleman founded Fertility Faith.
Coleman said she believes Fertility Faith will become an impactful movement. Indeed, when she speaks and shares her heart via her blog, she references her diagnosis and the feminine-related issues she faces. But it’s important to note that Fertility Faith is much more than a source for women. It’s a source for anyone who feels stifled in her ability to produce in whatever area God has called her to. Coleman uses her experiences and the confessions of the Word of God, as well as practical applications, to encourage people to debunk the status quo and press forward despite the seemingly insurmountable obstacles they may be facing to birth babies—literally and figuratively.
“I want people to know just like you fight cancer, you have to fight infertility,” she said. “It’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. When you come to God with your situation in faith, He shows up. You can’t lose when God shows up in your struggle.”
The hope that Coleman offers to women across the world is simply a reflection of the hope she has within herself. Although her attempt at in vitro fertilization failed, she stands on the fact that she received a promise from God.
“He spoke that I will birth a seed, and what He says cannot come back void,” she said. “So I am patiently waiting on it to manifest. God will stand true to His word.”
It may not look like the promise will ever happen, but she said moving forward and walking in victory like it’s already done is the key to receiving the promises of God. Coleman’s book, Faithing It: The Faith Fight to Produce Your Purpose, in which she shares her story, offers God-given revelations and prayers and takes readers along on a journey, will release on Nov. 17, 2015.