Don't Go Solo


We live in a society that teaches us to do things alone. However, the way the system is set up, no one is able to do anything alone. We need other people in many ways, whether directly or indirectly. This starts at an early age. When a child is born, she has to learn the fundamentals of life—walking, talking, using her five senses, and many more skills acquired along the way. But she doesn’t do this all by herself. Her parent or another adult teaches her these things. Children need help—they need the push to get going, and they need the safety and assurance of knowing that if they mess up or don't know how to do something, they can always ask.

Even as adults, we don’t do everything on our own. If your family decided to go out for dinner, someone would have to take your order, someone else would prepare that order, and your waiter would serve you. Everyone plays a different role in life, and all of the roles people have are essential—no one is more significant than the other.

The same is true of our individual lives. We are constantly growing and going through the process of life, and there is nothing wrong with asking for help. There is someone out there who has been where you are and can offer guidance and wisdom. It could be related to a career, raising kids, budgeting, marriage, college, personal development or cooking.

Some of us have been taught to have the "me, me, me" attitude, and this has caused a closed-minded attitude to seek help. Asking for help doesn't make you look weak—it actually shows that you have the courage to reach out and ask. That's wisdom. By asking for help, we can learn from the experiences of others rather than having to learn the “hard way”.

Everyone needs someone, and it's important that we always remember that every person on the earth has something he or she can teach us. Everyone has a contribution that is important to the world. In striving to be our best on a daily basis, we can show others—and ourselves—how we can contribute to society.

Whether you had a difficult childhood or are enduring times of struggle currently, you can make a decision today to live your best life now. There is someone who can help you—there is hope, and you don't have to do it alone.

Challenge yourself to connect with someone who encourages, pushes or models you into greater experiences. Life is full of opportunities to have genuine relationships with those around you—don’t try to go through life alone when some of your greatest moments often happen when surrounded by good company.