It’s Not About You—It Just Involves You
There is a lot of talk about finding your purpose in life. We all want to know that “thing” that we’re created to do and for most of us, finding it and living up to it sometimes becomes an obsession.
We spend a countless amount of time taking quizzes on Facebook, reading books and looking for a sign that will give us a clue about why we’re here and what we’re meant to do. Living a life unfulfilled seems to be higher on our list of “fears” than anything else we can imagine.
The thing that we have to remember when seeking out our “purpose” is that purpose usually isn’t about you—it just involves you.
That “thing” that you were created to do is usually meant to assist and support others, and in the process, you experience growth and development to become a better version of you. In short, purpose is more about what you do to impact others than it is about you.
So how is it then that we become so self-focused in our pursuit of purpose? Since when did purpose become something that we “own” and want to focus around us, who we are and what we want? It has turned into a concept that has become more self-centered than service-centered.
The journey to discovering our purpose, gifts and operating in our “sweet spot” where we feel most at home within our sense of self is as much a part of our ultimate purpose as the destination itself. As we try out different versions of ourselves and discover things about who we are and what we’re capable of, we experience a different side of purpose—the process of purpose.
Many times we’re so consumed with the destination of purpose—where we have “arrived”; that we try to rush or overlook the process of purpose—where we are “becoming”. It is in in the process of becoming that we are able to also make an impact on those around us--people who are seeking encouragement, motivation, inspiration and an example to follow in their own journey of becoming. Those are the people who benefit most from your process of purpose.
The growth that we experience is usually unpleasant and uncomfortable, but it is necessary. Change is never easy and moving out of our comfort zones is usually difficult. We’re not at our best and more often than not, we feel inadequate and completely ill at ease so we try to hide the process of purpose and focus on arriving at our purpose. Doing that deprives others of the opportunity to learn and to grow that watching you provides. Unwillingly, when we make purpose about us (and try to hide what we think are the “ugly” parts)—we impede someone else’s process of growing into and achieving their purpose.
So really, when you think about it, your process of finding your purpose really isn’t about you—it’s about others; but it involves—and depends—on you.