Sometimes you gotta back up to go forward


We’ve all been there.

Those moments when you’re feeling overwhelmed, overworked and in over your head.

As women, we’re told that we can “have it all”, but no one tells us what that actually looks like.  We don’t get advance warnings of having to go days without enough sleep; or of feeling like we’re just functioning instead of flourishing because we’re desperately trying to be all things to all people.  No one tells us that even if we’re surrounded by people that we’ll still feel lonely and alone because no one else really “gets” it. We’re too afraid of showing other people that we’re not a low-key version of Wonder Woman to ask for help. 

No one tells us that it’s okay not to have it all together.

So we push through—even when we feel like at any moment our “all together” is going to collapse into a pile of broken pieces at any moment.  We suck it up—push through—work harder—get on our grind—or any other myriad of incarnations and slogans designed to keep us moving at all costs.

But moving forward is not always the answer.

Sometimes you have to back up to go forward.

Sometimes going forward means that you have to take a side step.

Sometimes going forward means that instead of hitting the “easy” button; you hit the “reset” button.

Sometimes in order to go forward you have to stand still.

We are not robots.  We need to replenish.  We need to refresh.  We need to take the time to recharge.  We need to take time to be quiet and reflect.

If you are constantly “on your grind” and trying to make things happen by moving ever forward, you never have the opportunity to soak in the lessons that you’re supposed to learn.  If you’re so busy moving that you never stop to reflect, then you may miss the answer to that problem that’s been staring you in the face for days.  If you never allow your body to sit still and recharge, then you may be sidelined by a forced time out when your body decides to make an executive decision and shut down.

Your mind, body, heart and spirit are not designed to constantly be on the go without a chance to replenish themselves.  We owe it to ourselves to take time to devote to healing ourselves by replenishing ourselves.  You can’t pour from an empty cup any more than you can run on an empty tank. 

There is NOTHING wrong with taking time out for you.

There is NOTHING wrong with taking time out for you.

There is NOTHING wrong with taking time out for you.

You are an amazing creature, yes.  But you are not a machine.  You are created to be in balance.  When you are out of balance then you suffer and those around you feel the pain.  You’re not doing anyone any favors by pushing yourself beyond your limits, least of all yourself.

So take some time—no MAKE the time—to reflect on your accomplishments and lessons; recharge your mind and body; rejuvenate your spirit by reconnecting with what gives you joy and redirect your path with a clearer vision, a renewed passion and a restored purpose.

The world is waiting on you yes—but they can wait until you’re done taking a step back so you can move forward—this time with greater impact.