Finding Freedom from Life’s Many Tangles
Life can be full of situations and moments that cause women to feel insecure and insufficient in whom they are. Carey Scott seeks to help them break through those tangles that can warp the mind and the heart. In her recent book, Untangled: Let God Loosen the Knots of Insecurity in Your Life, Scott opens up and shares some of her most personal stories in hopes of encouraging women to stop trying to fix themselves but, instead, find their worth in the Lord. At the age of 4, Scott was a victim of child molestation, and she opens her book by telling the story of how a man not only took advantage of her, but also made her feel like she was the one to blame and told her that she would “never be worth anything.” For years, Scott believed that lie, and she said she didn’t even realize how much that had a hold on her until about five years ago. She said going through counseling helped her see the impact that had on her throughout her entire life. Writing her book was also a therapeutic release for her that allowed her to see the healing power God will provide.
“God has freed me from the shame and guilt of it and the messages that it planted inside me,” Scott said. “I feel like that chapter is closed. God really healed me through the pages of this book. Here’s the best part: you don’t even really know you’re healed until something that should trigger you doesn’t. He is going to do what He says He’s going to do. If we ask Him to intervene and untangle us, then He is going to do it.”
About 10 years ago, Scott, 48, felt clearly called to start speaking to women. She said that is where her heart’s passion is. But then the Lord led her to write this book, and it provided a bit of a challenge for her. The difficulty wasn’t in the actual writing part, however, but in knowing that anyone would be able to have access to her story and so many things that were tender places within her. The feedback she received from her book, though, has helped to confirm to her that what she shared was meant to be shared—that other women needed to hear her story to inspire them to be willing to share theirs, as well.
“I got to the point in my life when I said, ‘God, don’t let all of the things that have happened to me be for nothing,’” she said. “There’s so much power in a testimony. I’m so inspired when I hear a woman has overcome something, and I feel like this book will encourage other women that there is hope wherever you are. God will do what He says He’s going to do.”
At the end of each chapter in her book, Scott offers prayers, thought-provoking questions for the readers and also personal accounts of other women who share ways God has “untangled” them from some of the struggles they’ve faced. Additionally, there is also an Untangled website that individuals can visit that offers online quizzes so that women can realize what’s tangling them. Scott wants to make it clear, however, that her book is not meant to solve all of a person’s issues.
“This is not a self-help book—this is a book that will really come alongside a woman and remind her that she’s not on a journey by herself,” she said. “The things she’s feeling are normal. This book will not fix her, but will open her eyes to the things that are triggering her and will remind her of the only One who can fix her.”
Untangled touches on subjects such as images women try to convey on social media, making efforts to be the perfect mom or wife, constantly seeking success and many other expectations women place on themselves. But, as Scott reminds her readers, the standards of the world shouldn’t be what dictate how women live.
“I want women to know that they are not a defect,” she said. “They’re made on purpose, and they matter. We live in a world where we only feel we matter if we measure up to others. It’s performance-based. God made us in the image of Jesus, and we’re not expected to be perfect.”