Cultivating a New Normal


What time do you get up in the morning? What time do you go to bed at night? Do you pay your bills on time or is everything usually last minute or late? Are your files organized? Do you monitor your spending? Do you give? Are your actions calculated or are you spontaneous? Are you proactive or reactive? Why? Why not? Why do you do what you do? The questions could go on and on.

Believe it or not what we do or don't do on a daily basis affects everything about us and around us. From the time we awaken in the morning to the time we go to sleep at night, every action we take has an effect. The effect may be immediate or delayed, but there is a consequence in everything we do; good or bad. What's normal for you?

The other day I did something that completely stopped me in my tracks. I asked myself, "Why did I do that? Why do I always do that?" I even berated my own self, "I hate when I do that!" The problem was that I didn't like it, yet I continued to do it. I thought, "This is insane." From that moment, I determined within myself to do better. I was serious. I was not going to do that again...and for a good two days I didn't do it.

Then I did it again. "WHAT HAPPENED?" I screamed. The less sophisticated, simple answer is that it didn't become normal for me; therefore, I looked at it as a temporary action rather than a permanent solution. In my mind I thought, "Okay, I'm going to try doing it this way and hope for the best." In contrast, I should have thought, "Ok, this is the way it's going to go from here on out. There is no other option." The second scenario offered me no other option but change. I had to force myself to develop a new way of doing something. A better, more productive way. A new normal.

Have you ever experienced anything like this? There will always be issues like this in our lives, but until we take ownership and responsibility nothing will ever least not permanently. Have you ever had a habit you wanted to change? How difficult was it? Do you get mad at yourself because you can't overcome it? I'm inclined to believe you have. It doesn't matter what the issue is, large or small. We all have them, but more importantly we can change!

We are in the middle of spring. It’s a season of awakenings, and, more importantly, new beginnings. Life begins again. Take this time of renewal to cultivate your own personal new normal. Take a conscious inventory of what needs to stay, what needs to go and what must change. Decide right now. Don’t wait. Your new normal begins today.