Easy Come, Easy Go.
In the hottest of summer days, we are anxious for cooler weather. In the coldest of winter days, we are anxious for warmer weather. Hardly ever do we just enjoy the seasons of life. Naturally, we always want what we can’t have at a given time. We want the forbidden. Fast food stops are more prominent in our lives than a regularly home-cooked meal because there is no time to wait. When the wait is too long for any given thing, we move on to the next best, even if it is far less in value. In the generation of high technology, everything we want is at our fingertips in a matter of minutes or maybe even seconds, thus causing an epidemic of impatience. The power of waiting, however, is highly underestimated. We miss out on what develops during the wait. In relationships, we rarely wait to be courted. We don’t wait to have the awkward first kiss at the end of a first date. We don’t wait to know that we are truly loved before offering the very core of who we are. Everything is so expeditious. We meet. We have sex. We make a child. We move on and the cycle continues, relationship after relationship. Yet, we complain about never finding ‘the one’. Perhaps we don’t give situations enough time to see if maybe, we had indeed found ‘the one’.
Meagan Good, one of Hollywood’s most beautiful and successful actresses, speaks candidly about her one-year celibacy with her now husband, Hollywood movie executive and minister, Devon Franklin. She says, “I literally had to make a commitment that there is no other option…and it was amazing that God blessed me with someone who had already been there long before me.” She and Devon Franklin recently celebrated their second wedding anniversary and they are looking forward to spending the rest of their lifetime together.
Who is to say that celibacy is the one ingredient to the recipe of a successful love story? Then again, who is to say that it isn’t? One thing is certain: giving yourself to someone who truly deserves you should be the ultimate goal. At some point, giving yourself away so easily, and not receiving anything in return has to get old.
For as it been said many times before: Easy Come, Easy Go.