Making Your Relationships Work for You

Seeking to make improvements in your life includes bettering your time with those you love.
Seeking to make improvements in your life includes bettering your time with those you love.

There is something about starting a new year that is very exciting—it often sparks new opportunities, a new mindset, and new goals. One thing many people often miss when they write their new lists of resolutions is their relationships. Whether in the form of romance, friendship, or family, if you don’t get your relationships in perspective, you can often repeat mistakes of the past.

Evaluating your relationships and writing resolutions around them can help you identify the people in your life that are holding you back and people who connect you to your destiny. No matter how significant a person may be in your life, each individual serves a purpose.

Your family members are very important and serve as a great support system. However, there are times when a family member’s contribution to your life can often have you choosing the safe option when considering a big step of faith, which can often keep you in your comfort zone. This can lead to living a new year very much the same as the last. The other side could be when a family member becomes so dependent on you that your dreams and aspirations are put on hold. If you are in this situation, decide this year to put yourself first. This does not mean you neglect helping out your family or stop taking advice. Rather, it means you put your purpose first and allow everything else to work around it.

Oftentimes, romantic relationships take more of your emotions, time and energy. A bad relationship can even change who you are as a person. It is important for you to start off the year defining your romantic relationships. The true sign of a healthy relationship is progression. You both should work together to achieve one aim, alongside your individual goals. There should always be movement within your relationship status. For example, if you find you are still considered the girlfriend in a relationship after five years, you have to evaluate whether you are both on the same page.

Friendships are often like romantic relationships because they take a lot of energy from you. Defining your friendships can help identify which friends are there for you for the long haul. A good quality friend will be able to survive and stand with you through every life situation. You will often become like sisters, and the support and encouragement will be balanced between the both of you. There are other friends who will seem to drain you. While you don’t have to cut them off completely, it’s important to place people in the right place and give them the time they deserve in your life.

You only have one life to live, and with the new blessing of 2015, it’s time to cherish each moment and each minute on purpose.