Think Like a Wife, Act Like a Superwoman
Marriage is a sacred covenant, but it’s also a union that takes dedication and commitment in order to bring out the best in both spouses. Isn’t it funny how, as young women, we dream of the big Cinderella wedding and fantasize about the fairy-tale love story and the house with the white picket fence? We almost follow these fantasies until we actually jump the broom and realize there’s so much more to the story. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it is not for the faint at heart. If you don’t keep on top of things, as a wife, it is easy to become overwhelmed and develop a desire to want out of the marriage.
Your faith reminds you that you can endure the tough times—you can do all things through Christ, and God gives strength and grace to overcome every difficulty. It is also important not to lose your identity within the roles of being a wife and a mother. It is so easy to find yourself on autopilot mode, going through the same routine day after day. Here are a few tips to help you shine and revitalize each day.
Every morning, make time to pray. Even if it’s 15 minutes before you get up, it will make such a difference in your day. You can even purchase a devotional and spend your first moments reading it. Command your morning, and confess good things into your day. As a child of God, you have the ability to communicate with Him and trust your prayers in His hands. Ask God for wisdom—the difficult situations that life often brings can feel like heavy burdens. If you always remember that you are never alone, you will not feel so isolated when facing challenging seasons.
Apart from being a wife and mother, what do you believe you were put on this earth to do? What are your aspirations and dreams? One thing that can serve to benefit a woman is to create a vision/faith board. It is so much fun to make, and you can create two—one for your dreams and aspirations, and one for your family goals.
As soon as you get home from work, life can be go, go, go until your head hits the pillow. It is hard to find time to pamper yourself. However, something like taking a bath can turn into your “pamper me” time. Purchase some bath salts or essential oils and light some candles, then turn on your favorite artist to provide some musical tunes while you relax. Even if it is just for 15 minutes, you will feel so revitalized and refreshed.
A woman’s relationship with her husband can come under strain, and the busyness of life can often make her forget about the romance. Remember that love is like a flower—it requires constant watering in order to keep it growing and flourishing. Send the little ones to grandma’s house or hire a babysitter for the evening. Even if it’s watching a movie at home together or a quiet night out alone at dinner, it is crucial that you carve out time to water the marriage. Take time to remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Remember that you are human, and you are doing a great job. It’s not easy to have a successful marriage in this day and age, so remember to make time for you. Act like a wife, and think like a superwoman.