Revitalizing Your Existing Relationships


Relationships are the most important parts of our lives. Your relationships with your significant other, your husband, your children and even your friends provide large amounts of energy to propel you forward. Fruitful relationships are important for our daily growth. But sometimes, we hit a rough patch.

Have you noticed that your relationship has become predictable? Has it become mundane, stale or lifeless? If so, the good news is it doesn’t have to continue this way. God desires for us to live the abundant life! This means that even our relationships should reflect the fullness of God.

Here are a few keys to help you revitalize your relationships:

  • Pray. Ask God to show you the area in which the breakdown began and what you can do to fix it. It’s easy to blame the other party. It takes maturity to analyze the role you played in the breakdown.
  • Live in the Moment. Be present. You don’t ever want the other party to feel as if they don’t matter. Don’t make them feel that what they have to say or how they feel is insignificant. When that happens, people tend to pull away or turn to others who make them feel cherished and respected.
  • Reflect. Write down why certain individuals are important to you. Move away from the mindset of being a victim (complaining that your relationships aren’t what they should be) to a position of pure love and appreciation (reflecting on what others truly mean to you). This allows you to operate in energy of love. Now you can cultivate your relationship from a place of wholeness, not brokenness.
  • Be Grateful. Research by Dr. Sara Algoe and colleagues shows that feeling grateful for something your partner does leads to an increase in the sense of connection and relationship satisfaction. Most, if not all, relationships see positive reactions from simple gratitude.
  • Designate Quality Time. Quality time is important in maintaining, rekindling and rebuilding relationships. The other person needs to know and understand that they are important to you. Everyone desires to feel wanted and loved. Social media and other external factors can serve as huge distractions from the people and the things that truly matter. Before we know it, we have sacrificed the most important relationships for a few likes and follows. Turn off your phone, get off social media, and spend some quality time with your significant others. Plan a weekend getaway. Book a ladies night out. Time matters. Make it count.

Tomorrow isn’t promised. Don’t live in doubt and regret when you still have time to revitalize your relationships today. Visualize your relationship being renewed to a place of wholeness and love! Now walk it out consistently!