Sex: A Sacred Experience

Intimacy with your spouse is something you should be proud of and blessed by
Intimacy with your spouse is something you should be proud of and blessed by

Though current culture has created definitions and expectations of sex to be lustful and often not very meaningful, the original intention of the union of a man and a woman was meant to be sacred. It seems like sex is a very dirty and taboo word in the world of Christianity. Whenever it is mentioned in the pulpit, a chuckle or an uncomfortable feeling arises within the congregation. Even between Christian married couples it can become just a duty of a wife rather than a sacred act of celebrating a union blessed by God. Here are a few points to help break the barriers the world has placed on sex, unravelling the true intention of sex in marriage.

You must start at the beginning to find out what God’s purpose is for sex. It can be seen through the first people that he put on the earth, Adam and Eve. Eve was formed from Adam’s side while he slept, which is very significant because whenever blood is shed in this way in the word of God, it represents a covenant. So when Eve was taken from Adam’s side, this represented a covenant between them as husband and wife. This is why Christian couples take communion when they get married. Genesis 2:22–24 says, Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. So when you are intimate with your spouse, you are not only connecting physically, but also becoming one flesh with your husband. This is the spiritual side of intimacy. That is why it’s essential not to take advantage of God’s covenant and share your body with men to whom you are not committed. Doing so violates God’s purpose for sex, and you cannot enjoy the full blessing of it. You also become one with that individual, and exchanges are made within the mind, body, soul and spirit. When that relationship ends, you carry a part of that person with you. This is called a soul tie, and unless that soul tie has been broken, you will make comparisons between an ex-lover and the new relationship. This is no foundation for a strong relationship.

This type of intimacy before marriage—even if you are on the road to becoming husband and wife—can cause the pleasure and enjoyment not to be completely there after you say your vows. Once you are married, though, you experience a different type of intimacy that is not only physical, but also spiritual. Before sin entered into the heart of man, sex was already created. The Maker’s design for sex was good, but human nature has twisted it to represent everything else that is not holy.

Yes, there are times when a busy schedule, work and children drain out a romantic night with your husband. Many women can identify with you on that one. Remember, though, that having sex with your covenant spouse is not just a physical activity. It’s a sacred experience.