What Does the Single Lady Do at Christmas?


Just because the mistletoe is out and romance seems to be around every corner doesn’t mean that you have to find a date to be able to attend your next holiday party. Christmas—the most wonderful time of the year. It is the season for giving, laughing, loving and wishing. It is the season when children are rewarded for a full year of being nice rather than naughty. Families and friends are reunited over great food and good music during Christmas time. It is the season in which a man packs away his commitment phobia and declares to the world on one knee with a diamond ring that he plans to change a woman’s life and last name. Christmas—it’s the time of year when bad things become good, and good things become better. The only thing that is strong enough to fight the joys that Christmas can bring is standing underneath the mistletoe alone.

For most single women, they have to endure at least 25 holiday seasons without the dream relationship. At least 25 holiday seasons have come and gone without them being the lucky girl envied for the new engagement ring or beautiful holiday wedding. No matter how many times the season passes without change, each year brings a new hope that this year will be the year. As you pass the Christmas trees in Walmart, the question lingers: “When will I begin my own family traditions?” Every year at the Christmas dinner, when your cousin introduces her new love to the family, your mind is plagued with the concern, “Will I find love?”

These thoughts are so bold and intimidating; yet, they are sneaky because, while refusing to fight the feeling of loneliness, no one ever realizes that the true problem is the seasonal obsessiveness of being in love. You may wonder what it is that makes women crave relationships the most at Christmas time. The answer is simple. The feeling of completion that will yield from endless time with family, friends and the one you love is incomparable. Wanting love or hoping for a relationship is not a bad thing. As a matter of fact, it is a very good and natural feeling that most individuals have at some point in life. However, whether or not you are in a relationship should not determine the magnitude of your holiday cheer.

The antidote for the lonely blues at Christmas is simply to be grateful. Think about family, and think about friends. Take time to be grateful for your job, for your passion. Give more. Find someone who is in need and give him or her a smile that no one can erase. Embrace the holiday season with a spirit of joy rather than bitterness. Do not compare. Wondering how your best friend, instead of you, has found love will not make things better. Find a reason to smile. Your best holiday date could be on the same aisle in the grocery store looking for a smile like yours. Most of all, remember to be content with the greatest gift given to us all—the reason we even celebrate the Christmas holiday in the first place. Being alone does not have to mean loneliness. Enjoy the gift that will always be your company.

For unto us a child is born, a son is given; and the government will be upon his shoulder. And his name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. –Isaiah 9:6

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