Learning Healthy Boundaries
With 2022 coming to an end, putting your health first should not become a secondary. Maybe you did not check off as many goals as you might have hoped for this year. That’s okay! It’s not too late to set a goal that is satisfying and allows you to prioritize boundaries for yourself. This is a goal that shouldn’t just be for 2022, but for life as it benefits your mental, spiritual and physical well-being.
Have you encountered a space where it seemed like everywhere you looked was a no-touch zone? Maybe you experienced this at a local museum with signs stating to remain 6ft away or walk quietly and no food was allowed. When we see these sorts of signs, we see these boundaries as limits. We think about it as more of a hands-off affair when it is the exact opposite — it is hands-on. The good part about boundaries is we get to see the results we put into them.
As fall approaches, let us be women who learn the healthy boundaries that we need to set for becoming renewed versions of ourselves.
Although there are boundaries, these aren’t always necessarily a hindrance screaming ‘no’. What if we see each boundary as a yes?
Yes, to be brave.
Yes, to be disciplined.
So how can you fall fast into setting healthy boundaries?
Well, it is not good enough only to set a goal. You must be willing to see what hindrances keep you from achieving it. A goal alone is not quite obtainable — it will be just a goal we wish to see checked off someday. With these steps, you will see you are saying yes to becoming more renewed by choosing steps leading you closer instead farther away from your goals.
Communicate
When we communicate, we give an insight into what we hope for ourselves and allow others to see our goals are no longer a list, but are now a language that becomes part of daily living. This is a wonderful way to keep you mindful of what you are aiming toward while building a support system when family and friends see your beliefs.
Set Emotional and Personal Boundaries
This is essential to keep yourself from being on an emotional rollercoaster. “For example, a woman might decide that she has healthy boundaries with her romantic partner, but not with her friends and coworkers” (Selva, 2018). When you keep it simple and do not over-explain, you are setting yourself up for success and removing unwanted stress.
Set Consequences
It is good to remember why it is important to you. When you think about the consequences it helps you think to say yes even more to keep you motivated towards healthy choices you decided on at first.
Yes, falling fast into a routine with healthy boundaries is accessible for any person’s lifestyle. Too busy or not enough to do — you can implement the right leverage needed to build boundaries for your next chapter in life. If you are ready to get a jump start. Here is a free guide to building positive relationships.
Regina Murden is an educator, inspired Bible teacher, and writer. Her purpose is to encourage women to experience the joy of a fulfilled life. She knows this can only come from a close relationship with God. She currently resides in Memphis, TN. She takes long walks, love horseback riding, and enjoy traveling.
