Hope for your Marriage
~Working Together

Posted by Kennisha Hill on September 8th, 2010 in Blog | 7 Comments

“Why in the world would I want to work with my husband if I’m already his wife?” This is the thought of many married women, I’ve heard.
They claim it’s challenging enough to deal with marital issues-but can you imagine being on the job with him knowing you were furious about his dirty socks that are constantly thrown beside the laundry basket instead of inside of it?

“How do people do it?” many wonder. I wondered the same thing, once upon a time in my single life. Could I be able to stand working with my husband and being his wife? What I didn’t realize was just how possible it is and how much it can benefit your marriage.

On our wedding day, my husband and I received more than warm hugs, gifts and well wishes from family and close friends. We also were filled with large servings of wisdom from experienced married couples. My parents, his family, my old Pastor and his wife, and many others went around one by one sharing with us very helpful tips for this new journey we were getting ready to embark on. One of the tips stuck with me.

My husband’s Uncle Ray said to us, “Work on a project together.” He explained how working together not only can help strengthen our marriage as it grows, but that we’ll grow well as a team-and teams that work well together can survive in the midst of anything.

As time moved on in our marriage and we had our share of experiences-great and challenging ones- Uncle Ray’s advice would repeat in my mind over and over again.

Well, as God would later lead me to begin my writing career, I desperately pleaded with my husband to get involved and be on my team. “You can help me edit,” I’d say. “Or, you can write this column.” He wasn’t too enthused about writing or helping me edit, even though he’s an exceptional writer. But, I had to respect his opinion and not bug him so much. So, I continued to pray-and Uncle Ray’s wisdom nagged me continuously.

Soon after, God opened up the door for us to be the youth leaders at our church home. Although it’s not a regular 9-5 job, it’s still an important position that we both hold together. You see, our study times together, thought-provoking conversations about our teen topics, and over all zeal for this youth ministry is really helping us to communicate more. We all know that communication is one of the important keys to a happy marriage!

I’d like to encourage you to pray and seek God about what you and your husband can to together. Maybe it’s a project in church or one outside of church. Whatever it is that he leads you to, it will help open your communication lines-which in turn will draw you both together.

Marriage, in itself, can have its challenges at times; but God always has a way to help bring you two closer than ever before!