Letting Go Of The “Woulda Coulda Shouldas”

Posted by Kerry Tepedino on February 25th, 2011 in Blog, health and wellness | 4 Comments

Have you ever experienced those thoughts in your head, the ones when you wonder what would have happened if you had made a different decision, chosen a different path? I call them the “Would Coulda Shouldas” and what I have finally determined is that they do not usually do you justice. They do not help you feel better with where you are at or what you are experiencing in the present moment.

The “Woulda Coulda Shouldas” are a reflection of events after they have happened. They are completely capable of sending you off to swim in a pool of guilt or wishful thinking. They are usually drenched in the wonderings of what might have been if you had chosen the other option.

Usually “Woulda Coulda Shouldas” is the distinction between what is reality and what you think could have happened if you had made a different choice. Everyone does this at times, but to be in a constant state of second guessing is no way to live. It only leads to inviting in the feelings of frustration and disappointment. We limit ourselves from living full out in a place of acceptance and joy.

An important thing to remember is that there are no mistakes. Everything happens in divine timing when you hold trust and faith close to your heart. It serves you to live in the now and be present to who and what is around you. Never take anything or anyone for granted, rather make it a daily habit to look through the eyes of gratitude for what is.

So for our Week Two Wellness Challenge I ask you to leave the “Woulda Coulda Shouldas” at the door and allow yourself to live fully in the present moment. For one week release yourself from the grips of the past and allow yourself the gift of being here now, as the fully expressive, beautiful person that you are. Do not hold back your laughter, love, and light. Realize that your past experiences are what have shaped you into the amazing human being that you are today. Enjoy.